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WHY DO WE GET SICK?
Have you ever stopped to think why some people get sick and why some people don't? Are some people just lucky? Do they have better genes? Is their immune system healthier? Are some people able to handle stress better than others? It has been my experience that a person's ability to fend off disease has to do with the person's ability to handle stress or trauma of all kinds: physical stress, such as from being in an auto accident; emotional stress, such as an argument with someone close to you; or mental, such as the stress of paying bills. Everyone has stress. As a massage therapist and a healer, every time I place my hands on someone I can feel the amount of stress in a person's body. I can feel the tightness in a person's neck and shoulders. There is a big correlation between the amount of stress going on in your life and the amount of tension in your physical body. The more the stress, the tighter the muscles, and the more the physical body breaks down and doesn't function properly. What is your physical body telling you about your life and the stress in it? A few years ago a man traveled from Phoenix to see me. A friend of his drove him to Tucson, as he was too weak to drive himself. The man's doctors had told him he was terminal. He had a cancerous tumor wrapped around his heart. The doctors could not operate. His soul, however, was not ready to give up. After his friend had left for the duration of the session, I had the inspiration to place my hand on his back, and I asked, "Who broke your heart?" As I watched, I witnessed a metamorphosis as he looked up at me with such sad eyes and started sobbing. He told his story. Five years ago, he had been deeply in love with a woman. One day he walked into his house to find all of her belongings gone. As the owner of a construction company, later that day when he went to do his payroll, he found to his horror, that the bank account was down to zero; all the funds had been withdrawn. I worked on him energetically as we continued to talk and he spilled out his pain. When he stopped crying, we talked about what had drawn him into the relationship, and what he needed to do to heal. We talked about his need to release her, about forgiveness, about forgiving her and forgiving himself. We talked about his going to Mexico to a cancer clinic, which he did go to. The last time I spoke to him he was on the road to recovery. It appeared that the emotional pain that he felt in this relationship had actually been the catalyst for the cancerous tumor wrapped around his heart. Once he was able to release his emotions around the betrayal of his love, he was able to start to heal at the level of cause. Are you aware that, most of the time it is not our mind but our emotional needs that control our actions? Take a look at your life. Are your primary relationships good for your emotional health? Do people validate you? Is your job fulfilling? I have found that women who come down with breast cancer are usually very kind, giving, nurturing women, who put someone else's needs above their own. They are not nurturing themselves enough, but someone else. One woman that I worked with, who came down with breast cancer, was a nurse who had quit her job to take care of her husband's mother and father who were both very ill. Another was a single mother who devoted all her free time to the care of her daughter. These women needed very much to be loved themselves. You must come to accept the idea that every attitude, opinion, and belief you have affects your biological makeup. Your feelings can actually be held in your body tissues. Are you very responsible and tend to shoulder responsibility? Are you able to identify who is the pain in the neck? Recently I worked on a very successful man in his fifties who founded his own Internet software company. Ten yearsearlier he had been a ski bum, who hadn't felt motivated to change his life. One day he took a huge fall while out skiing, and broke his pelvis. While laid up, needing to make a living, he worked on computers. Today, very mobile, very successful, and very happy he wonders if his soul had "directed" him to a different occupation. A person with chronic pelvic pain, or genital and urinary tract problems may have a history of sexual abuse, especially when young. Women who have experienced sexual trauma tend to exhibit behaviors of powerlessness. They may be depressed, passive and submissive, anxious to please. These women usually have trouble with their immune systems. People with kidney stone problems may be weighed down, and have trouble moving forward. In one of my classes a woman asked about the emotions that go with cancer of the urinary tract. I said, "Being pissed off." A friend, who was with her, smiled and said, "Why, that's what you always say!" Disease or illness is a signal that something needs to change; a feeling needs to be addressed. Men sometimes come down with prostate problems when they retire. When they stop working they loose the feeling of power that comes from their work, and subsequently feel the loss of their potency. Feelings of loss, sadness, hurt, despair, anger, betrayal and fear can all have a negative impact on the physical body. It is time to take a look at our life and determine what is not working for us. What have we been covering up? What emotions have we stuffed or denied? What happened when were traumatized? What feelings are we still holding? Healing means taking action, and making a change on all levels of your being in a positive way. It means taking care of your body, feeding it properly and changing the way you respond to unpleasant circumstances. Change can be terrifying. Many times we are hooked on someone or something in a negative way. The mind is very powerful. The mind can create illness and the mind can heal. Your mind is capable of both creating and releasing a negative pattern that is keeping you ill. In the future we will explore the Power of our Thoughts. So why do people get sick? Something is amiss in our relationship to ourselves. Energetically the body is blocked. Our bodies are expressing our inner conflicts. The organ or area of the body that is affected is a key to getting well. Is your eyesight getting worse? What is it you don't want to see? Are you having trouble hearing? What is it that you don't want to hear? Do you have trouble breathing? What do you need to get off your chest? How do you feel towards your boss? Is your boss a pain in the neck? Take a look at what your body is saying to you. Your body can be a guide to a healthy, energetic you. |
